Lisa Goldman, iVillage. It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man. Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right. We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.

29 Tips for Finding Love in Your 40s man told us, “You can’t date in your 40s without considering how you came to be dating in your 40s.

I thought that since I was an attractive, fit, well-educated, financially and emotionally secure guy that I would have no problem finding a woman in her mid 30s to settle down with and start a family. I have tried a combination of online dating , speed dating , professional singles events, volunteering, happy hours etc. I thought that online dating would be great since you are essentially pre-screening people for dates.

I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc. At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men. In online situations, women say they want desperately to meet a nice guy like me, but never answer my response to their profile. I am trying to remain positive, but two things are really bothering me.